Roly-Poly Baby

"Yummy squishy"

"Our tender little lamb sausages"

"My very hungry caterpillar"

"Scrum-didilly-umptious"

"My joy and my happiness"

"Cocolicious"

"Her royal corpulence"

"My little holy roller"

"Pure deliciousness"

Is there seriously anything better than juicy seven-month-olds?

True to form, Coco now is sitting up like a champ, bouncy and happy, with the only movement across the floor consisting of continuous rolling from front-to-back, front-to-back, from one end of the room to the other. Besides trying to one-up each other on the most appropriate nickname for her, we simply cannot stop giggling at or squeezing all that abundant flesh . . .

It's really no wonder the great masters have always included cherubs in artistic depictions of Heaven. They're definitely part of mine!

Summer Rocks!

With the sudden entrance of what has finally become a sizzling summer, I have found myself caught up in all its respective pleasures--lazy mornings, swim lessons, dressing the baby in nothing more than cotton onesies, the fresh smell of new tomato plants, reading The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn with the kids, listening to our distant neighbor bagpipe Amazing Grace from his back porch, hot concrete under leathery feet, playing with long-lost cousins, local concerts in the park, watermelon by the bucketload, regular picnics, and lots of dazzling sunsets in the face of balmy wind.

In the process of taking extended family photos on Tuesday night:

I love watching the adults make fools of themselves to get the kids to smile.

My kids have relished in the goodness, and I have in turn savored their enjoyment. Truth is, my biggest goal as a mother this season has been to keep things around here as simple as possible. I have actually planned for us to be lazy, (sans media distractions, of course), so that all the summer magic can happen on its own without "plans" getting in the way. Some days have been more successful than others. . . , We did manage to finally landscape the backyard, and Pearly-Q and I did get away for a short Vegas stint to see Cirque du Soleil, but other than that, things around here have slowed way, way down . . .

It's just one way I love to celebrate all my exquisite freedoms.

Happy 4th of July, everyone.

Graduations

Bitty and his best friend from preschool, at their very important preschool graduation ceremony. (Too bad this buddy will soon be moving to Dubai!)


This time of the year for any mother can be a bit crazy. It's funny because I distinctly recall how the months of May and June used to be a happy, carefree season in life. Don't get me wrong--I still enjoy the glorious warmth peeking through the clouds, with all the refreshing laughter of flowers and the happy smell of blossoms. It really does feel like a rebirth . . . And yet, ironically it is also the time that so much effort is poured into celebrating progression and all sorts of different graduations. Today we finished the LAST of these--the boys' piano recital. Phew! I guess now I can finally say I have graduated myself--from all the graduations, of course.

Now for a tribute to some of the fun milestones as of late:

Big-O & Bitty finally finished out their soccer season. Big-O in particular knew how to tear it up out there. Pearly-Q and I seriously were constantly amazed by the child's raw talent--something neither one of us will ever be able to take credit for. Check him out:

The Sass completed her first year of dance, (something she has adored). She performed in her recital to "Five Little Monkeys," as what else? Oh, a monkey. Man, did she love to swing that tail!

The piano recital. Ta-da! We did it. Actually, I have to just say right now that this what made COMPLETELY possible by my amazing husband who practiced with the boys every day and attended their lessons every week since Coco was born. He is seriously the man! As a musician who understands how much work this really takes, I have to admit nothing endears me more to him than what he does for our sons in this respect. It is incredible, and makes me so grateful to be married to him.
Do you think they're proud of themselves? They really should be, though.

Coco moved on to ribs. Just thought we'd start her early. (Hey, she's got to cut her teeth on something. )

Our kids officially survived the first six months of having a crazy mother who survived 3 young children & a baby. Though there were some hard days, some holding-on-by-our-fingernails days, and some pathetically ridiculous spacing moments (like missing Big-O's end-of-the-year Kindergarten program), on the whole, our time as a family since Coco's birth has been more glorious than any of us could have anticipated. Our four children have officially become their own tour-de-force. Though they definitely have their typical sibling squabbles, I am amazed to see how much love they express for each other, especially as their mutual love for Coco has literally exploded. Just the other day, Sassy said, "Dad, you know why I love Coco? . . . Cause she's da best!" Fortunately, we all feel the same way.

I mean, who can seriously resist this?

Seriously.

My Notebook

I cannot believe that it has literally been over three weeks since I have posted anything! Craziness . . . The need to do so has sat repeatedly at the back of mind, and repeatedly it has been shelved because of so many other pressing concerns that surround any typical mother of young children. You know the list:

• Laundry
• Cleaning
• Cooking
• Teaching kids to clean
• Practicing
• Reading with the kids
• Getting to all the end-of-the-year school programs
• Birthday cards/gifts
• Laundry
• Weeding/mowing the lawn
• Soccer games
• Dance classes, Music classes, Chinese classes
• Fitting in individual time with each of the kids
• Planning out meals
• Grocery shopping
• Planning out summer schedules
• Organizing playdates
• Dentist/doctor appointments
• Mothers' Day gifts
• By the way, did I mention laundry? (Made worse of course by Sassy's insistence on wearing at least three different dresses/outfits per day).
• Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. (I envision the adults in Peanuts here, cause that's how I feel even looking at this list).

Sometimes what requires my time is enough to make me wacky, and I wonder how to fit all of it in with some sort of serenity. Then, when I allow myself to take a giant breath, I remember that there is indeed someone who has the capacity to help me.

There is a scripture that reads: Counsel with the Lord in all thy doings, and he will direct thee for good . . .

I believe that there is more wisdom in that statement than meets the eye.

Think about it. If one truly believes that God lives, that we are His children, and that He absolutely loves us, then it stands to reason that He is indeed willing to guide us in even the tiny particulars.

And with that in mind, lately I have decided to take Him at His word.

For the last couple of weeks, each morning starts off with the same domestic chaos of feeding children, dressing them, overseeing the completion of chores and practicing, etc. But, as soon as they are shuffled out the door or dropped off at school, and I have put the baby down for bed, I pull out my notebook.

"A notebook?" you may ask. "So big deal . . ."

Actually it is a big deal, because that trusty little spiral bound number is where I begin to write and write and write. I list all the items I need to logistically accomplish that day--everything that comes to mind.

And then I start to pray. Actually, like the scripture says, I begin to counsel.

"Is there anything I have forgotten to include on the list?" I ask.

I note the changes.

"Is there anything else I should consider?" I inquire.

Again, I write the response. Sometimes the answer doesn't include just logistical items, but things to consider or ponder upon in my relationships with others as well. . . Particularly my husband and children.

"What items on my list are the biggest priority today?"

I star the items He feels are most imperative.

And so the process continues, while I glean more and more and more information.

Pretty soon I have a pretty good-looking list, with a peaceful picture of what I really need to do that day, and, best of all--the preferred way to go about doing it. Inevitably after a "counselling session" like this, I can expect all sort of magical moments in my day--like the moment I hear that still, small voice in my mind that says, "You have an extra 10 minutes to spare right now. It's the perfect time for you to stop at the store and pick up a gift for Big-O's birth mother for Mothers' Day." . . . "Thank you very much," I say.

Or the moment when I hear, "The kids are doing well downstairs for a minute, now is the perfect time to call the individual I mentioned this morning." . . . "Wow," I think again. Or, "Aren't you forgetting to call and reschedule those appointments?" . . .

And the list goes on and on.

Over and over I am astounded at the degree of help I receive for things that may seem meaningless to others, but are incredibly important to me. In fact, the process is often so personal that it often brings tears to my eyes as I marvel at His awareness of me as an individual, and the love helps center me in a way that nothing else can. As I stop to consider this process, I can say with absolute certainty that God hears and answers my prayers on a daily basis.

And, most importantly, the guidance He is willing to provide is constrained only by my own limited expectations--not His.

Laoshi

The word "laoshi," (pronounced lao-sure) is the romanized version of the Chinese word for teacher, an incredibly respected and beloved term in their language. Were you to visit China, rather than seeing athletes on billboards sponsoring a product, you would instead observe photographs of well-known professors. To the Chinese people, the regard for educators hearkens back literally thousands of years--something our materialistically-driven cultural could definitely learn from. For our family, the word also holds reverential meaning, as the laoshi for my children has made all the difference in our world.

When I first met Laoshi 2 1/2 years ago, I immediately liked her. Bright, kind, happy, and unassuming, she felt like the perfect person to assist me in my goal of helping my children learn Mandarin. Knowing full well the limits of my own ability to shoulder the reponsibility alone, we quickly arranged for visits three times a week to her home (which is just several minutes away from mine).

Quickly we became friends, and I learned that she moved here from Taiwan 20+ years ago (where she had previously been a kindergarten teacher), and she married a long-time resident of what used to be our "little" town, and then started a family. Unbeknownst to me, I was just beginning my mommy burnout, and the chance to regularly meet with someone and witness a part of myself steadily improving (my language ability), rather than rapidly declining, meant more than I explain.

Each week we drove to her house, and I began to let my hair down as I watched her engage my children in singing, dancing, and playing in this wonderful language. Gradually it gave me permission to play with my kids in a way I hadn't allowed myself at home. (Can you believe I had never played hide-and-go-seek with my kids before I met her? Pathetic.) For whatever reason, pulling away the distractions of laundry, dishes, and cleaning, and placing me in an environment where the whole point was to involve my children in a lighthearted atmosphere in order to learn, allowed me to finally relax and enjoy my kids in a way I hadn't before.

As the months passed, and I began to hear more and more Chinese expressions escape my children's lips, I also discovered how Laoshi's quiet, genteel approach to living affected my soul. Surrounded by horses on own side, cattle on the other, with a large garden and chickens in the backyard, Laoshi lives peacefully. Whenever we enter her home, there is a calmness that I love. I never hear television, radio, or other distractions that get in the way. As part of this, she also has a love for children that is tangible. Her patient understanding of how they think, why they behave the way they do, and how easily they respond to her authenticity moves me, and over the years I have taken quiet notes as to how she approaches her own mothering. Interestingly enough, she also has four children of her own, now ranging in ages from 19 to 11--two boys and two girls--just like me. Each one of her kids is amazing, and I take pleasure in observing how much she savors the opportunity to be their mother.

Thankfully for us, sometimes this spills out in her devotion to our family. Without equivocation, I can proudly say that she is a second mother to my children. (Just the other day, when Sassy got in trouble she sobbed and cried out, "I want Laoshi!" Meanwhile, you should see how the baby lights up like a Christmas tree in her presence.) I relish in the fact that they adore her so much because her uplifting influence on their lives bolsters mine. How many people do any of us know who truly has no guile?

When at look back on my relationship with Laoshi, I often consider the phrase "hindsight is 20/20." Uttered so often, it can lose some of its significance, and yet I feel like it describes so much of my experience up to this point of my life. As I look back upon being guided to Laoshi, I feel more gratitude than I will ever be able to convey to either Diety or human being. Though I initially believed I had acquired a wonderful teacher for my children to learn a language, I now realize that in all actuality Laoshi has been graciously willing to become my teacher.

May God always bless her for being my angel. We love you so much, Laoshi! Xie xie ni!

Ni Hao

This picture was taken last year at Disneyworld's Epcot Center with MuLan. My kids have only seen that movie in Chinese (many times over, to be honest), and naturally assumed that she would only be able to speak Chinese. (She is Chinese, after all). You can only imagine the look on her face with my three little caucasian children busted out in Mandarin. It made my heart swell with pride.

As most of you familiar with our family know, I am one of those curious mothers who insists are her children sometimes doing strange things. Depending on the day, some would say the constant drive to feed my children fresh vegetables would be enough to qualify for the title, "off-her-rocker." But no, it gets even more bizarre. I have decided that I want my children to learn a foreign language, Mandarin Chinese to be exact.

Now why in the world would a mother of small children ever have the desire to do something like that?

Explanation:

Well, there are a myriad of different pieces that answer this question, actually--the least of which includes the amazing experience Pearly-Q had with learning Spanish as a preschooler. That has, I believe, resulted in his insane ability to pick up foreign languages like nobody's business. (And his accents are awesome, I might add . . . His Chinese sounds better than mine).

Combine this with the enormous gift it is for anyone to speak a foreign language and expand their perception of the world, along with the uncanny ability young children have to pick up any foreign tongue when exposed to it, and voila--thus enters into this momma's heart an ardent desire for her children to learn another language.

Incidentally, Chinese turned out to be the language of choice b/c I actually speak it . . . Kids progress much better the more someone speaks to them consistently in the foreign tongue, so I figured we'd better stick with what I knew. That aside, who can fault Mandarin for being an incredibly & important language? Since my LDS mission I have more opportunities to speak it than anyone would ever occasion to guess.

These are the answers I give initially others whenever I get the funny looks about why in the world I would do something like this with my kids . . . all incredibly viable and important reasons that I stand by these 2 1/2 years laters since embarking on this journey. Funny thing is, now that hindsight becomes clearer, I understand so much more about why I felt so compelled to do this. There is much I have to say about this, and I will continue blogging about this tomorrow, because it has much to do with the peace I have found in my life. In the meantime, jia you and zaijian!

Five Months

Who can resist a roly-poly baby girl who lights up like a Christmas tree every time you even glance her direction?

One who loves to carry on with thunderous, squealy discussions and who enjoys to creating her own unique piglet-like grunting noises?

Whose sapphire baby blues are mesmerizingly pure, and her squishy flesh absolutely delicious. (I know . . . I've tested).

I can't. That's for dang sure.

Consider me officially wrapped around her little finger. . .

Willingly.

By the way, can you tell we're finally over the bias of not smiling for the camera. I think she's figured out it is actually friend, not foe.